When our point of view is threatened we all feel insecure. Nobody likes to recognize that the problem can partly be oneself! The goal of growing is to overcome. Let´s accept life as a gift. Accept the responsibility to act according to our best interests. Let's think that if we are good people what we seek for ourselves will also be good, as long as we are honest with our needs.
When a person grows up, they abandon the way they saw themselves. Part of the pain of growth comes from realizing that you have been dishonest with yourself, and that grief makes people change. You always have to take a leap to renounce what is false. When we understand that we were cheating, we try to be much more honest.